I really enjoyed your post! It's something I've been thinking about lately, as well. How the best people are often the naughtiest in private (or want to be). And how being naughty in a healthy way actually helps keep us balanced and away from more dangerous (perhaps illegal or criminal) behavior. Also, it adds joy and pleasure to life, and helps us re-connect with our inner, playful child. But for all of this, it's so important to find, like you said, the right "partner in crime". I look forward to reading more of your writing!
Thank you! I agree, play is play, and there's no need to read too much into our playful preferences. Video games are tremendously popular, and many are cartoonishly violent, but that doesn't make their players dangerous. Play is an outlet we should embrace and enjoy!
This is the first email I’ve received since finally hitting ‘subscribe’ and I had to double check the email hadn’t been sent to me alone! I have rarely felt so seen. I often feel as though I’m pretending or acting as I go through Real life. I don’t think I’m alone in feeling that. But I sometimes wonder whether, if I ever truly enter my own play world, will I finally feel real? It all seems upside down sometimes.
I do try to write as if each post is a personal missive, so it's delightful to know you read it that way. I think the sense of confusion you describe, of feeling like we're pretending because our feelings seem so strange, is one a lot of people would recognise. Hence the theme of this post, it's OK to be aroused by naughtiness, because being naughty isn't the same as being bad.
I really enjoyed your post! It's something I've been thinking about lately, as well. How the best people are often the naughtiest in private (or want to be). And how being naughty in a healthy way actually helps keep us balanced and away from more dangerous (perhaps illegal or criminal) behavior. Also, it adds joy and pleasure to life, and helps us re-connect with our inner, playful child. But for all of this, it's so important to find, like you said, the right "partner in crime". I look forward to reading more of your writing!
Thank you! I agree, play is play, and there's no need to read too much into our playful preferences. Video games are tremendously popular, and many are cartoonishly violent, but that doesn't make their players dangerous. Play is an outlet we should embrace and enjoy!
This is the first email I’ve received since finally hitting ‘subscribe’ and I had to double check the email hadn’t been sent to me alone! I have rarely felt so seen. I often feel as though I’m pretending or acting as I go through Real life. I don’t think I’m alone in feeling that. But I sometimes wonder whether, if I ever truly enter my own play world, will I finally feel real? It all seems upside down sometimes.
I do try to write as if each post is a personal missive, so it's delightful to know you read it that way. I think the sense of confusion you describe, of feeling like we're pretending because our feelings seem so strange, is one a lot of people would recognise. Hence the theme of this post, it's OK to be aroused by naughtiness, because being naughty isn't the same as being bad.
Fascinating to hear your experience, I've always been a top, and it's cool to know there's a whole new world to explore. Maybe one day!
This is excellent advice for everything one has ever wanted, or even ever been curious about. Thank you.